In a marriage, a man may feel self-doubt, insecure, and even questions his woman’s feelings about him at some point. Although your man is reluctant to acknowledge those feelings, most likely he has ever experienced them. Like the majority of husbands, probably your man would also not like to tell you directly the words like “I’m feeling down on myself and I want some reassurance,”, or “ I feel insecure in the relationship.”, but it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want you to satisfy such his secret needs. In fact, married men not only want to feel safe but also desire to feel like a great man in their relationships. That is why you should pump up his ego from time to time.
If you have no idea how to make him feel good about himself, take some minutes to read the 10 tips below on how to boost your husband’s ego.
(1) Compliment his sense of humor:
Usually, a man likes to make his woman laugh; and he will feel good about himself if he can directly let his woman enjoy herself. So, you might stroke his ego by smiling at his antics or laughing at his jokes even though what he says is not so funny; for you, the only thing that ultimately counts is that he is trying to please you.
When he is trying to make you laugh, if you tell him that he sounds fun or that he has a good sense of humor, he is apt to happily accept such a compliment and take it to his heart. However, keep in mind not to laugh hysterically or laugh at all things he says, otherwise, he will feel like that you are just being fake with him, it is also never what he hopes for, and that will only make each other embarrassed; as a result, he will stop the attempt to please you. Therefore, remember to keep it real, and meanwhile let him feel that his humor sense is to your liking.
(2) Compliment his appearance:
Every man wants to be desired by his woman, and once you boost his ego to the point where he feels that you give him the abundant opportunities to show off his good side, his heart will be filled with gratitude for your kindness. So you may try to find something you love about his appearance; as long as you are sure that you are physically attracted to him sometimes, it should not be hard. And tell him clearly that you often think about that part of his body. For example, if you particularly like his chest, then let him know that his chest is amazing and that his chest is worthy of a woman’s attention, so you easily notice it, but you do not have to blow it out of proportion though. If your man is skinny and does not have superbly strong muscles in his body, you should not cry out about his “big muscles” in the presence of him; if you do that way, he will only feel embarrassed, not proud; even he may misunderstand it as a sarcastic remark, and thereby he may pull away from you. So, it is necessary to stress a point again: just point out the attractive things that he really has.
(3) Compliment his intelligence:
In a lot of unhealthy relationships, women tend to make their men feel stupid. Probably, you also have such a tendency; although you don’t have the intention to do so, you may have done that way; for instance, when you notice that he has done something wrong or dissatisfactory, are you ready to complain, blame, or accuse him, and are you tempted to go up to him and correct his behavior at that moment?
If you complain that he always messes things up, he will naturally start to think that you regard him as an idiot and hence become withdrawn and isolated from you Put yourself in his shoes, would you be happy to stay together with a partner who thinks you are an idiot? Therefore, when you are tempted to correct what he is doing, remind yourself not to do that as long as it is not a serious issue and he doesn’t want to be interfered with by others at that time; instead, just offer him encouragement without jumping into action. And when he successfully solves and corrects the problems on his own, you should timely give him recognition for his achievements. For example, you may say to him: “you always know very well how to figure out difficult problems!” or “I love how secure you are!” Those simple words are sure to boost his ego by raising his confidence.
(4) Compliment his family members:
In general, a man is proud of where he is from; and most men have a deep attachment to how he was raised, whether he ever grew up in a poor neighborhood, a rich neighborhood, with a single parent, or with many siblings; after all, it is an essential part of his self-development. What most women fail to realize is that a husband can’t help feeling appreciated, when his wife appreciates where he comes from.
In order to give your man an ego boost, the next time you talk about his family, don’t just compliment him; you might as well compliment his family members too. For example, you may give him compliments like “your dad is an awesome model for you”, or “your mom did a good job in raising a son like you”. Saying these things will not only make your man feel proud of his family but also reassure him that he has made his family proud.
After reading the 4 tips above, you must have realized that compliments are one of the easiest and fastest ways to make him feel better about himself. So, when you are confused about how to boost your husband’s ego, keep a key point in mind – when he secretly craves the admiration from you, he can easily accept your compliment as a clear expression of admiration for him.
(5) Make him feel heard:
As his wife, you are sure that you are willing to listen to him all the time, and you believe that you are the most loyal listener of your man. On the other hand, he might not clearly feel it. The male ego can get hurt easily when he feels that he is not being heard in the relationship.
In order to make sure he feels heard, what you should do is more than just listening. When he tells you something impressive, you may remember it and then mention that thing later. For instance, let’s suppose that he shares with you a story about picking apples with his grandmother when he was a child, you can bring up this story again while you and he are walking through the supermarket to buy fruits a few days later.
Don’t overlook such a gesture of proving that you remember what he said. It looks simple, but it works well to attract your man. Maybe you don’t feel special to speak of what he said, but probably it has a special meaning to him – the odds are that he will feel like that you cherish things about him. Thereby, the more he feels cherished, the more you feed his ego.
(6) Show up for him
If he has to join a party and wants you to attend it too, try to carve out your time to go with him, even though your schedule has been very busy. If he wants to plan a family reunion vacation, assist him with good ideas. If his birthday is coming, spend time preparing for the celebration for him. In short, let him feel that you are always there for him.
From time to time, you might let him sense that you put your man’s needs and desires before yours. By showing up for your man and doing anything you could for him, you can make him better understand how much he means to you. On the contrary, if you often make him feel like that you are not happy to be there for him when he is struggling with difficulties, or if you often make him feel ashamed or guilty when he has to ask you for a favor, he is tempted to think that he is nuisance in your mind or that he is not worthy of your attention.
(7) Don’t be too emotional:
You must also experience the situation – sometimes, when you are disappointed at some of his actions, or when you are fighting over some controversial issues, you have an impulse to tear him apart, and even you may not realize that you are speaking to him in a condescending tone. Well, if you have such a tendency to offend him in the heat of the moment, you should timely remind yourself to stop doing so. This is emotionally abusive and will only make you and your man further drift apart. Worst of all, it can destroy the hard efforts that you have made to boost his ego. So, the next time when you get into an argument or fight with your husband, pay more attention to your emotions.
Remember, when he did something that lets you down, the first thing you should do is to control your temper, then explain it to him in a calm and mature manner, and start to hold a sincere conversation with him about it. Even if you have to freak out, you had better do it on your alone time, not in front of him. Remind yourself not to think the worst of him all the time; you must be aware that sometimes couples can hurt each other’s feelings without meaning to. In fact, no matter how angry, upset, bored a marital problem makes you, ultimately there can be a way to get through it, and it needs to be resolved in a calm and peaceful way in the end.
(8) Allow him to take care of you:
As with many independent women in modern society, you may have got used to looking after yourself, and you may firmly believe that you can get your own things done alone. It is great to be that type of woman. That being said, though, if you are too independent for the relationship with him, there may be another serious issue lying under the surface – Do you think that you will not be so independent or you can’t trust him as you trust yourself if you permit your man to take care of you from time to time? If you think so, it is time to change this mindset.
Now that you have got married, you should understand that marriage means that a couple can trust each other and help each other; especially for a husband, he feels like a man when his wife lets him take care of her. Thus, when you are confused about how to boost your husband’s ego, you might try to make him feel like your hero in daily life; in a marriage, a man is always ready to help his woman to the best of his ability when she is in need of care; that is his responsibility, and that can also boost his ego significantly.
If you always don’t let him take care of you, there will be a tendency that he will constantly wonder why you don’t trust him; the more you reject his kindness, the more sadness and self-doubt he may be beset with. So, the next time you realize that he wants to do something for you, you might happily accept the care from your man rather than resist it. Remember, he feels manly when he is allowed to be your man, so don’t take this away from him.
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(9) Do what he likes:
Ask yourself whether you are the “showrunner” in your marriage. If so, you may take a backseat to his needs from time to time. In this respect, there is a wide range of changes you can make in your marriage life. When you two hang out, you may ask him what he means to do rather than always make a plan that is mutually agreed upon. If he wants to go out to eat Chinese food, go to have dinner with him in a Chinese restaurant. If you want to watch a movie that he really wants to see, come along with him. If he wants to stroll around a supermarket, go with him…
Sometimes, something that he wants is out of your busy schedule; but as long as you believe that being there for him can make him feel supported and appreciated, you might as well do that.
Does it sound easy? But it is certainly easier said than done; hence, it is necessary to master some tricks, here is an important trick: when you are doing whatever he wants, try to enjoy yourself during the process. Try to stay involved and have fun just like when he was happy to do something for you. No need to complain when you have to do something just for him; as long as your man is not a man of kindly character, someday he will reciprocate your great kindness to him.
(10) Take care of him:
In a fulfilling relationship, there should be a reasonable balance between spouses. Therefore, you need to take care of your husband, just like how he takes care of you. If he has a hell of a day, you should go easy on him. No need to ask him to be strong in front of you all the time; and you should learn to pick up on his feelings and act accordingly. Especially when he is upset, usually he needs an ear, so try to listen to him without any preconceived expectation or notion. Once you notice that he needs assistance, offer to help in any way you can. When he feels dejected or down, you should be supportive of him and embrace his highly sensitive side. At any point, you should let him feel that it is safe to express his thoughts and needs in front of you and that you will not judge him. In this way, you will not only make him feel more secure in the marriage but also give him more confidence to be himself overall.
The final word:
Attracting your husband with his ego should be used with caution; after all, no wife wants to create a monster of a husband who believes he is greater than anyone else. So, when you try to stroke his ego, there are many details that you should be cautious of. If you want to learn more about how to boost your husband’s ego, you might go on to read the page below to try to tap into his hero instinct:
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