I bet you have ever received some text messages that made your heart flutter. At that time, those texts made you feel so happy and special. And your husband also had a similar experience – some of your texts ever ignited desire and attraction in him; and if you haven’t summarized and generalized those texts, it is a great pity.
Next, let’s talk about 10 types of texts your husband will love:
1 The flirty text:
Maybe you and your husband have been married for many years, and you have already sensed that the intimacy and passion have waned; surely, if you are not sexually intimate with your man anymore but you and he are both happy, then that is still ok… However, a vibrant sexual relationship can always play a positive role in keeping a marriage alive. And some flirty texts can help add in a bit more spice into your sex life; by the way, you might leave something for his imagination while sending this type of text. For example, you might send your husband a text like “What do you want to do to me tonight?”, “I am lying in bed, I am waiting for you to come back…”, “I am feeling frisky, I can’ wait to see you…”
For more tips, you might go on to read the posts below:
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2 The “future” text:
Your married life may get repetitive and mundane at some point. To get out of the rut, you and your husband should have something significant to look forward to. Therefore, you might send him some text messages that remind him of pleasant or positive things in the future. For example, you might send him a text message like “Don’t forget our amazing trip to Greece this summer. You, me, sunshine on the Aegean coast, and some romance…” or you might say something like “This weekend, let’s go to your favorite restaurant for a big meal…” This type of text seems simple, but if you send those texts consistently, you will connect with him on a deeper level. When you and your husband discuss a pleasant or positive future, the two of you feel closer to each other naturally.
3 The memory text:
Sometimes you might send your husband those texts that remind him of good times when you and he spent together, such as a time when you and he camped in the wild, and a time when you two enjoyed a romantic dinner on the beach. When you are trying to remind him of those past things and experiences that brought love, peace, and joy, he will appreciate you helping him piece together his happy memories, and he can sense that you are committed to him; what is more important, this will not only make him feel good about himself but also make him feel more committed in the relationship.
And as long as you can take some time to reflect on your memories, it is not hard to come up with some powerful memory texts. By the way, when you remember one mightily impressive thing that can stimulate your husband’s resonance, try to describe it in all details. For example, you might describe the temperature, smells, and atmosphere at that time; you can talk about how that thing made you feel, and you can share why it still lingers on your mind.
4 The “hard times” text:
After a hard argument or conversation with your husband, you might send him such a type of text. Inevitably, we get into an intense argument with our spouses in our married life. Although you can not avoid them, it does not mean you have no control over them – you can try to conduct a conversation or argument. For instance, after you argue with your husband, the next day you might send him a text like ”That was so rough yesterday, but I am glad that we still work together!” Surely, this type of text can not bring about substantial help, but it helps reframe the argument in a positive light.
5 The uplifting text:
When your husband is having a hard day, he desires to feel supported; so you might send something encouraging or supportive to him. For example, you might say something like “You always lift me up while I am down. Now you also need to be strong!”, “If you want me to do something, please let me know and I will always be there for you.”
6 The “feeling like a man” text:
Your husband not only desires to feel like he is someone special to you but also wants you to treat him as a competent man. Remember, men are inherently competitive; and you can make him more infatuated with you by stimulating this instinct. So, for example, you might occasionally send him a text like “The world would become better if more men were like you!”, “If more guys were as thoughtful as you, more women would feel happy.”
When you are trying to compose this type of text, make sure that all the messages are real, thoughtful, and genuine. The more sincerity you put into your text messages, the more “warm fuzzies” he is going to feel.
7 The appreciation text:
In a long-term relationship, there is one thing that every man wants more than money and sex; it is appreciation. A man can hardly feel like the powerful and masculine dude that he deserves to be if he feels that his good work is not appreciated by his woman. For example, your husband always works hard to support the family, and he wants you to occasionally express appreciation for this thing that he does for the family regularly; if you never show appreciation for this, over time he may feel ignored, taken for granted, or devalued; expressing appreciation is not a complex thing, it is just contingent upon your willingness; for example, an appreciation text can be as simple as “I appreciate your hard work for things you do for the family”.
When it comes to all types of texts your husband will love, the appreciation text is the most desirable.
8 The “I do” text:
This is another type of simple text that can give your husband the “warm fuzzies”. Especially when he least expects you to show your loyalty and commitment (e.g. when he is in a financial crisis, when he is a mid-life crisis, when he lost his job, and when his family of origin is experiencing severe changes), the “I do” text can touch his heart. And this type of short and sweet text can be like “I never regret my decision to marry you”, “If you got down on bended knee, I would still stay “I do” again”
9 The “I miss you” text:
When you send this type of text to make him feel that you want to be with him, it makes him feel cherished. Although feelings for each other can change throughout the years, you need to keep nourishing the friendship with him to a deep extent that you miss him when you and he can’t spend adequate time together. In particular, no husbands do not want their wives to show concern for them when they are away for long periods.
On the other hand, you should avoid the following types of bad texts:
1 The demanding text:
It is ok to ask your husband to do something for you. After all, you and he are a team; both you and he have the responsibility to work for the family members. However, if you demand too much of him, he will feel like a servant of you; and this makes you unattractive to him because he thinks you are too codependent.
Therefore, you need to avoid sending him a barrage of demanding texts. In the meantime, if possible, you should strive to take more responsibility for things in your married life, whether they are small or big.
2 The overcritical text:
This type of text just asks for a disaster; for example, when you send him texts like “Why are you always late?”, “What can’t you respect what I need?”, “Why can’t you do things better?”, and “You never show me enough affection!”, he can feel embarrassed to continue the dialogue; nobody wants to be resented/criticized, so the overcritical text will only make the situation worse; probably the purpose behind your constant criticism or resentment is to support him or want him to improve himself, but it is easy for your husband to misinterpret it – he may misunderstand that you just belittle him deliberately.
By the way, if you feel guilty about sending him overcritical texts, you might follow this quick tip: use more “I” statements instead of “You” statements. For instance, instead of saying, ”You always mess up the room!”, you might say, ”I will feel better if this room can be cleared up.”
3 The argumentative text:
If you often pick fights with your husband through text, he will view you as a “texting terrorist”. Sometimes, arguing through text becomes much easier than in real life. But you should try to avoid it. Why? It is because texting allows us more time to come up with a variety of appropriate rebuttals; that can lead to a bigger argument. Therefore, the next time you feel an urge to bring up a particularly sticky issue through text, you should resist it. Just wait until you and your husband have a proper environment to have a serious face-to-face discussion.
Again, the argumentative text is just a type of “attraction destroying” text.
The final word:
Of course, simply sending him text messages can not significantly change your relationship, but powerful words can have a positive impact on how he perceives and desires you.
If your marriage becomes stale and you need more marriage-saving tips, you might go on to watch the video below to follow the comprehensive guidance that is offered by Brad Browning, a marriage coach with 12+ years of experience:
Learn what to say to your husband – Make him obsess about you again…
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