Do you start to wonder if your wife is cheating on you?
Although men often make the mistake of treating their women with suspicion and mistrust, now infidelity statistics clearly show that more and more wives had an affair or been unfaithful in their marriages.
Although men often make the mistake of treating their women with suspicion and mistrust, now infidelity statistics clearly show that more and more wives had an affair or been unfaithful in their marriages.
Yes, it is often wrong to deal with your marriage based on unfounded suspicions; but if you often can not help but feel that your wife’s behavior is abnormal, in addition to your unnecessary doubt and insecurity, probably you start to think about whether there are other terrifying reasons behind her behavior; if so, you may feel a need to take a closer look at what she does in daily life; anyway, you should remember: without enough signs your wife is cheating on you, you should not jump to conclusions.
An errant wife usually behaves differently from the old version of herself, and here’re 9 possible signs a wife is cheating on his husband:
(1) Surprising new clothes:
Notice whether your wife suddenly likes a surprising new clothing style; if she starts to wear the style of clothes that she ever clearly stated that she didn’t have an interest in, or if you are sure that she does not dress to attract you, it is necessary to question her motive. This may be a classic sign of a wife who tries to cheat on her husband. Surely, only based on her sudden change in clothing style, you can’t judge that your wife is cheating on you.
(2) New perfume:
Does your wife start to wear perfume that she hated or never applied? Has she changed scents or scent brands for no apparent reasons recently? Like the previous sign (“surprising new clothes”), maybe the sudden change in the use of perfumes is another classic sign of a woman’s infidelity; and for a lot of women who have strayed, they simultaneously change their clothing styles and wear a perfume that smells radically differently; when this sign and the previous sign are both detected in a wife, it increases her husband’s suspicion of her infidelity to him; but many errant women still make such changes unconsciously.
(3) Becoming more secretive:
Usually, a wife who has cheated will become much more secretive than before. When it comes to family affairs that need her presence, probably your wife is still present; but you may have realized that she arrives later than before, and it seems that she always has plenty of plausible reasons for being late. Perhaps she has got used to locking her phone recently, which makes it hard for you to check her phone records and text messages. Perhaps you realize that she has changed her email address, or perhaps you have found you can no longer log into her social media using the original passwords that were allowed to be known to you.
If your wife has had an affair, most likely she also has come to realize one thing – the more she explains, the more you are puzzled; hence, when you repeatedly ask her why she acted differently from what she used to do, she may choose to be silent before you, or she may not want to talk much. No doubt, this change should be viewed as one of the most suspicious signs your wife is cheating on you.
(4) Routine changes:
General, a large number of errant wives consciously change their daily routines and lifestyles. In itself, changing a routine or lifestyle doesn’t mean your wife is cheating on you; but when added with other possible signs, the possibility of her having an affair can not be excluded unless she has a good reason for making such a change.
(5) A familiar stranger:
It is undeniable that a small number of cute strangers on the street are attractive enough to make the opposite sex stare fixedly at him/her, almost any adult has ever had such an experience; to be honest, at some point, we all have the transient feelings for some opposite-sex strangers in public, it is normal. But if you see the same strange man and your wife often keep an eye on one another but instantly avert their eyes once he feels that your eyes are focused on him, or if you perceive that a man that is strange or you do not know well frequently appears in your married life, you have a reason to doubt whether this man has the intention of interfering with your relationship.
At the same time, notice whether your wife often makes up some excuses for her absence and leaving alone. If so, you should regard it as one of the possible signs your wife is cheating on you.
(6) Feeling terrified:
After cheating on you, she will easily have a guilty feeling, but meanwhile, she will also attempt to hide her innermost feelings; she dares not to tell you the truth, and probably she always can’t have a way to release her pent-up emotions; gradually, you may be puzzled why she feels a flutter of depression and anxiety from time to time; and if you ask her why, she can also not offer convincing reasons, or she may pretend not to have felt that way. As things worsen, she feels more and more miserable around you; and when your marriage really reaches this point, a series of her abnormal behavior may be easily detected, such as insomnia, a loss of appetite in food, and a melancholic mood.
Such a situation typically happens when she still loves you deeply, but due to certain reasons, she cheated on you in the heat of the moment. After that, she always fears that you will catch her cheating one day. Besides that, clues that your wife is cheating may be observed from her nervousness when some questions that are sensitive for her are asked, such as “Where did you go last night?”, “What did you do after you left home yesterday?”, and “With whom did you go last night?”. So when you are suspicious of her fidelity to you, carefully observe whether there is this type of warning signs your wife may be cheating on you.
(7) Addiction on the mobile phone or computer:
A lot of infidelities originate from online relationships. For many people, social media has become a starting place where they can create and enliven the desire for love. Normally, the online relationship begins with a casual chat, then develops with voice and video conversations, and finally turns into a real love relationship.
In recent days/months, if your wife has spent much time in front of the smartphone or computer without justified reasons, especially if she gets terrified instantly once you get close to her to see the messages that she is inputting or she has received, you can not rule out the possibility – your wife is cheating on you; at least, she is thinking about cheating.
(8) Being distant to you:
Recently she may have started to keep herself distant from you, and even you may sense her attitude towards you is aggressive sometimes. Surely, it is normal that married couples moderate their expressions of affection towards each other as time goes on; but anyway, affection is always an essential part of any love relationship. And if your wife cheats on you, you can sense her attitude towards you is no longer what it used to be. For example, you feel that she is unwilling to look at you, you feel that she is trying to pull herself away from you all the time, or she becomes quite easily emotionally triggered by your casual words and actions.
(9) Lack of sex:
No doubt, avoiding sex frequently may be one of the warning signs your wife is cheating on you. So do you realize that your wife has got accustomed to making up all sorts of excuses to avoid having sex with you? For example, your wife may say to you “I have a headache”, “I have menstruation”, and even she may directly tell you that she has no mood in sex or that she is tired.
Again, if your wife just rejects you sexually occasionally, you do not have to think too much about it. However, if you have often been sexually rejected by her in recent months, you may have to explore the deeper causes behind this problem; after all, being stuck in a sexless marriage is a vastly complicated relationship issue – there are a lot of possible reasons that she rejects you sexually from health to lifestyle factors that are not associated with her infidelity; for example, put yourself in her shoes: you would also have no mood to have sex with your wife if you harbored resentment or hatred towards her in your heart; therefore, it is not wise to make a hasty judgment only based on her sexual rejection unless you have caught other suspicious signs your wife is cheating on you.
The final word:
Most cheating spouses manage to disguise themselves after having an affair. But by instinct, women are more careful than men, and women naturally have a better anti-detection capability than men; so, compared with a man’s infidelity, a woman leaves relatively a few traces after having an affair. However, as long as a man pays enough attention, certain signs of her woman’s infidelity can be spotted on.
By the way, if only one or two signs like the above separately appeared in your marriage, don’t rush to a conclusion; otherwise, that may ruin a healthy relationship with your wife. But in a short period of time, if your marriage is found with several of these possible signs your wife is cheating on you, it is quite possible that your marriage is being challenged by emotional/physical infidelity.
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