Attraction should be viewed as an essential component of any long term relationship. Your ongoing attraction to him greatly helps keep your marriage healthy and strong. However, over the years, you may have realized that it becomes difficult to keep him attracted to you, especially when all sorts of family responsibilities increase. But you are aware that you value and cherish this relationship, and you desire that he can remain attracted to you like he used to.
If you have no clue how to be irresistible to your husband, the 9 simple tips below may make him find you irresistible:
(1) Be vulnerable:
Females are more emotional than males. A woman naturally has an emotional brilliance; in a man’s eyes, it is alluring and wondrous, and he also depends on a woman to bring that to the marital relationship. In particular, women’s vulnerability draws men in, just like antelopes to lions.
Being vulnerable means revealing the less-than-ideal parts of you in his presence, such as your shy part, your tender part, and your part that your fear is triggered. Surely, trying to impress your husband with your helplessness and powerlessness can hardly attract him in a way like admitting that you are having trouble in your new work that is also strange to him, or like complaining about how you ever felt embarrassed at parent-teacher conferences. So you don’t have to show all your vulnerability to him. After all, he just can help out when he can; however, you should be aware that he sincerely wants to do things for you as many as possible, whether he speaks it out or not; in this way, he can inspire himself to believe that he can help you deal with your vulnerability.
(2) Be a fun person:
In many cases, your husband wants you to be a fun person so that he can also have fun with you. Maybe, you never notice how magnetic you are when you are freely smiling, laughing, and dancing. Almost all the irresistible women share a common quality – they have their own ways to delight themselves, regardless of the circumstances. So, commit your time and energy to make yourself have fun in daily life; and in doing so, your husband will be more likely to come at you to spend more quality time with you.
Remember, you can hardly be irresistible if you can’t make yourself happy. And the more joy you can create in your everyday life, the more likelihood there is that your husband wants to find reasons to approach you.
(3) Focus on his strength instead of his weakness:
If your husband is ill or has to start his career afresh, probably you will be tempted to look after him – kinda like his mother would. But certainly, he never feels his mom is irresistible anyway. In this case, you may consider mirroring his strength you see in him rather than focus on his weakness; so when he gets sick, you may empathize with him by affirming him for being so strong, rather than baby him; give him the confidence that he can get through this hard time.
For a man, a woman who would like to reflect on the capability and strength that she sees in him is always appealing.
(4) Be good listeners:
Being a brilliant conversationalist can make you more attractive in your relationship. And when you are trying to introduce attraction into a conversation with your husband, remember one thing – being a good conversationalist is much more about being a good listener, and being an attentive listener is a lot better off than being a fluent talker. So, allow your husband to talk without trying to correct, interrupt, or teach him.
He is willing to sharing what’s on his mind with you when he feels listened during a conversation because the emotional safety in your relationship leaves sufficient space for him to communicate his feelings, attitudes, and intentions. Hence, many times, there is no need to agree or disagree, you just need to keep listening and timely respond to him, “I hear you”, or, “Uh-huh” when he is talking;
With active and attentive listening, you listen to him and then repeat what you related; in this way, he not only won’t get enough of you but also will appreciate you taking the time.
(5) Be receptive:
Receptivity is one of the essences of femininity that can attract men fundamentally. So to exhibit more feminine traits in your relationship, you might be receptive and open to his help, compliments, gifts…
Instead of doing things for him or giving things to him, let him do and give for you – even though sometimes it makes you feel squishy and uncomfortable inside.
In many cases, if you don’t interrupt him doing something for you, he will be willing to give you more care and love, although he may have to knock himself out to do it; and when he finishes a task for you, he may say things like “I don’t care what I did, but I just know you will be happy about it.”
(6) Keep yourself happy:
It is easy to understand that your husband can feel your resistance when you appear unhappy. Although he may not know what makes you unhappy, it is tempting for him to think that he will probably be resisted if he comes near you at the moment, eventually, he may choose to walk away silently.
However, at the sight of your happy smile to him, he will naturally regard it as a good opportunity of enhancing mutual communication because your delighted look on your face indicates that you are open to him, so he would like to move close to you and spend more time together with you. The happier you are, the more attractive you will be to the man who you love and cherish. Why? The reason is simple: a woman who can keep herself happy can also bring people around her joys and happiness, so people would like to approach her.
(7) Be seductive:
As a woman who badly wants to increase physical intimacy with your man, maybe you have tried various methods to attract him towards you, and even you may have ever tried to become an aggressor; but it seemed that those methods did not prove effective enough. If so, have you ever considered seducing him with your language, your scent, and your body? Actually, this can be a powerful way to make him emotionally attached to you.
Of course, being seductive doesn’t mean that you have to take initiative to initiate sex. There can be an irresistible approach: induce your man to make the first move on you by hinting to him that you would be willing. In this way, you can enjoy the thrill of realizing that he couldn’t keep his hands off you because this seduction style makes him feel that nothing is more gratifying and that nothing is sexier to him in the heat of the moment.
If you want to learn more about how to seduce your husband and make him desire you, you might go on to read the posts below:
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How to seduce your husband with words – Sexually arouse him.
(8) Be physically attractive:
Surely, when it comes to how to be irresistible to your husband, there is also one basic method to be physically irresistible to your man – celebrate the prominent female beauty. So, pay attention to those petty actions that possibly can make you irresistible to him, such as the swing of your hips while you are walking, allowing him to place his hand on your lower back, and wearing a short skirt to show him your sexy legs.
Furthermore, what makes a man physically attracted to a woman also includes a series of feminine features that make a woman look fertile and healthy, like dry clean red dresses, overall grooming, big boobs, less makeup, healthy hair, constant smiles, a high-pitched voice, and a wide waist to hip ratio.
However, regardless of our body size or shape, we were born with some goods that make ourselves a magnet to the opposite sex. So what you need to do is to find your special traits.
In a word, you have good reasons to celebrate your feminine body because it can make him rejoice in you.
(9) Be grateful:
The more you appreciate what he does for you, the more likely he is to knock himself out seeking more opportunities to win your appreciation. After he clearly realizes that he can easily please you in small ways, he will motivate himself to look for bigger and more ways. Both seeing your delight and hearing your thanks are also definitely joyful things for him, therefore he will continue to make more efforts to make you feel like the most well-being woman in the world.
The final word:
Ultimately, irresistibility should start from inside and then radiate outward – be a woman who intrigues your man to the point of real interest and interest him to the point where he becomes eager to commit.
In numerous husbands’ eyes, their “average” looking wives can be more attractive than those cover magazine models; why? Inner beauty trumps physical beauty ultimately. So, you should have confidence and believe in yourself.
For more tips on how to be irresistible to your husband and remain happily married, you might go on to watch the video below to follow the comprehensive guidance that is offered by Brad Browning, a marriage coach with 12+ years of experience:
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What a husband expects from his wife in marriage – A man’s needs.
What every man secretly wants – How to make him devoted to you.