As life goes on, it is very easy for both spouses to take the relationship for granted. If your man would rather spend a whole night with his friends than spending an evening with you regularly, it is time to take action to rekindle the fire and love in your marriage.
If you have no idea how to keep your husband’s attention, the 7 tips below may give you some insights:
1 Feed his ego:
Tell him you believe in him. Tell him you are proud of him. Don’t attempt to correct him like he is your kid. Don’t be upset about him after you ask him to do something but not in the way that you want. Don’t complain he didn’t do anything helpful for you when you were playing the martyr role in doing something important. Remember, your husband is apt to lose interest in you when you are always talking about things that he couldn’t control or win at. When he performs well, be generous in showing him your appreciation. And don’t attempt to manipulate him or play emotional games because it will only hurt each other and turn him off eventually.
Men have a massive ego, and their ego loves to be stroked. The male ego is a tender thing, and a wife who knows how to satisfy her man’s ego can keep more of her husband’s attention.
If you want to learn more about a man’s ego, you might go on to read the post below:
How to deal with your man’s ego – The male ego in marriage.
2 Feed his stomach:
Cooking food for your man is a good way to win his affection.
Most men hope their women can be a good cook, at least they expect that their women can cook some meals that they like. So, you may try to surprise him with some delicious meals, or pack a wonderful lunch for him from time to time… In doing so, you show him you take care of his need for tasty food and his well being. Now more and more men get accustomed to jumping out of bed, grabbing whatever he can whenever he can, and hurrying to go to work. A lot of modern women think that there is no need to learn cooking for their men. But for the majority of women in their marriages, this is just the inadequate of their actions that show their concern to their men. When you are willing to spend time making his favorite food, this type of action is more powerful than directly saying “I love you”.
3 Feed his physical hunger:
Men are a type of “I like to look, I like to touch” creature. They can’t help seeing good-looking women here and there every day, whether you like it or not. For example, they always fixedly stare at hypersexualized female characters when watching a movie, and they like to see female models and fitness babes on the cover of a fashion magazine. Yes, they easily turn their attention to those women who go by fast; but when they come back home, usually they will instantly shift attention to their own women. Of course, young men can easily get sex outside as long as they want, or even they can take care of their biological drives by themselves, but generally married men will not consider those women outside their marriages first, they think of their women first. Obviously, there exist all sorts of visual sexual stimuli around men, but ultimately those visuals enhance their desires for sex with their women.
Come back to the topic about your husband; he treats you as his soul mate, he also expects you to fulfill his sexual needs. And if you often reject him sexually, it will cause him to quit reaching for you; in this situation, he may seek other ways to satisfy himself; maybe he will think about dating another woman and having an affair, or maybe he will simply choose to release his negative emotions through some means, such as making achievements in other fields (e.g. games, and work) and then getting recognition and praise from other people.
4 Fully respect him:
Be aware that your husband is not your child; don’t nag him by the excuse like “I do it for your own good”. A lot of women make their men miserable by nagging about their men’s certain bad habits, or those things which they consider as their men’s boring behavioral patterns. Usually, nagging wives do not feel guilty about their being annoying and rude because they strongly believe the reason like “If he would listen to me early, he should have been much better off now”.
If you also treat your husband as mentioned above, you had better stop such a type of behavior that he feels constantly bored with. And no need to remind him how to do something again and again unless you are quite sure your opinion on it is definitely correct and his way is quite wrong.
When it comes to how to keep your husband’s attention, the most crucial point is to show him the respect that he deserves, because respect is what your husband wants most in the marriage. For more tips, you might go on to read the post below:
5 tips on how to make your husband feel loved and respected.
5 Make yourself pretty in front of him:
To a large extent, your beauty is never just something that you were born with; instead, it is more about something you do. For example, you may try to get yourself to retain a slim figure, dress in nice clothes, and grow your hair long. Surely, you must have physical flaws, but there is no need to obsess over them. What you should do is to cover up the negative with the positive.
A man naturally likes to look at beautiful women, a man feels like he makes a significant achievement by succeeding at having a pretty woman, and there are no husbands who do not want their wives to look beautiful in front of them. If you always think it is shallow and unimportant for him to pay attention to your appearance and you want him to be only focused on others outstanding aspects of your personality, you had better change this firmly-established viewpoint, because you have to recognize a fact – The majority of men not only care about their women’s intellect and career achievements but also keep an eye on how they look. Although maybe your appearance is not the most important thing that attracts him, it is still an unignorable factor for drawing his attention.
6 Engage in recreational activities together with him:
If your husband likes to, whatever, go hiking let’s say, then go hiking with him; or go fishing or anything that he wants to do for fun. Surely, it is better to find some activities that you both like. If you can’t find anything that you can enjoy together, you might also try to enjoy his favorite activity to enhance the warm feeling of being with him. If he joins your favorite activity but he doesn’t enjoy it very much, you should try your best to make him feel fun in the activity. By the way, sometimes your man may also be willing to take part in a boring party with you if you dress up pretty for that party, because probably when you are watching other people dance, he will have an interest in staring at you and enjoying you.
7 Catch his attention during conversations:
A conversation can be fully used to draw his attention; and here are three tips to get his attention in conversations with him.
- Be open to talking to your husband about issues that can interest him.
- Listen to him attentively when he talks to you:
He will instantly feel kind of embarrassed or upset and then walk away if you look like that you are not interested in what he is saying. So, sometimes, even though you are really not interested in his topic but you are sure you want to keep your husband’s attention, it is not wrong to try to act interested and keep your end up in the conversation.
- Spend dedicated time with him when you are not busy:
It is better not to talk to him when you are busy with something; for example, he may feel that you don’t really want to talk to him during the commercials when you are watching TV. If possible, immediately stop what you are doing and then start to talk to him.
The final word:
As a wife, you love to be validated for who you are by your husband. And you like to feel valued, special and important in your marriage. That is why you feel very hurt when he doesn’t pay enough attention to you.
Maintaining a marital relationship is bound to be a long haul; and to capture your husband’s attention, it is worthwhile to take time to discover what your husband secretly wants. As time passes, it is easy for your marriage to become lackluster, repetitive, and even downright lazy. However, you don’t have to accept this unhealthy marriage mode. As long as you keep up your efforts in connecting with your spouse emotionally, it is possible to reignite the spark in your marriage and feel the exhilaration of love that fills your heart again.
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