I bet you still remember when you used to communicate with your husband via text messages. For example, during the honeymoon phase, you constantly text your man to say hello or to check-in, you feel free to send him funny memes and links to interesting articles. But as time goes on, the dynamic of texting in the relationship changes… you text your husband less and less, and meanwhile, the content of your messages becomes more and more boring and stale. Generally, this change is normal, and this means the relationship has become much deeper, more stable, and less chaotic; but subsequently, the relationship may grow less exciting and less passionate.
Anyway, texting is always an effective way to maintain a sense of connection in a relationship, whatever stage your marriage is at. It plays an important role in keeping the spark alive in the relationship.
And the following points out 7 kinds of texts he wants to receive.
1 The “Thinking About You” text:
In a marriage that has lasted several years, a wife may no longer send the “Thinking About You” text to her husband. But this type of text has a positive impact on how a husband views his wife, and every man wants his woman to be concerned about him. And if you have no idea how to compose the “Thinking About You” text, here are some examples:
“I know you are busy now; I just want you to know that I care about you.”
“I don’t tell this often, but I think my best accomplishment is to have you. I often think of that day.”
“I want you to take better care of yourself no matter how busy you are, I hope you have a good day.”
“I am hearing the Beatles’ song that played on the first night you selected.”
It is so easy to feel beat down in our daily life, and even sometimes a small thing that is just a little unpleasant can make us want to crawl under a rock or pull our hair out. And as a man who needs to bear the heavy burden of the family life, he feels this way more often. So when he is looking at your “Thinking About You” text, he feels comforted considerably, and that can motivate him to devote more to the marriage.
2 The “love” text:
Probably, you often remind yourself why you fell in love with your husband, he also knows you love him; but he still wants you to tell him the reasons why you love him from time to time. Therefore, whenever possible, you might show him your love and affection.
If you realize that you don’t show love enough to him and you don’t know how to express your love, you might refer to the text examples below that are targeted for married couples:
“I am thankful that you are in my life all the time.”
“My life without you would be a world without sunshine.”
“When staring deeply into your eyes, I love the feeling.”
3 The flirty text:
It is normal that your man’s sexual desire decreases as the two of you spend more and more time together. In this case, both of you should try to bring the sexual spark back. And the flirty text can play a part in giving a long-term relationship an injection of sexual energy; many times, a man secretly wants his woman to turn him on; hence, probably those flirty texts are also texts he wants to receive from time to time. And if you can send him a well-timed intimate text at times, probably he will be happy to receive it. And if you wonder how to send him saucy texts without speaking too plainly, here are some examples:
“I want to make tonight all about you.”
“How about having some fun after work?”
“Tonight is so much fun. What do you want me to do to you?”
For more tips on how to amplify sexual attraction over texts, you might go on to read the posts below:
How to turn on your husband again – Arouse your husband.
How to seduce your husband with words – Sexually arouse him.
4 The “humor” text:
Laughter is a powerful aphrodisiac; however, probably you have been with your man for so long that you have already forgotten this. Why not remember when you and your man were first dating and falling passionately in love, I bet you would do as much as you could to make him smile and laugh at that time. Actually, you still can do it that way. And texting is a practical means of accomplishing this goal. For example, you might send your man funny jokes, memes, pictures, and animated gif images. Especially if you can make him laugh when he is having a bad day, he will appreciate your support. But probably, you have been afraid of being rejected by your man; and you don’t know when you have no longer shared your favorite jokes with him.
Anyway, you are the person who knows him best; you must know what can make him laugh; and as long as you can give him the kind of witty, humorous attention that he deserves, most likely he will feel amused.
Furthermore, if your husband has lost interest in you, probably he will also not be amused by your joke, regardless of how funny your joke is. In this case, you might go on to read the post below to get more suggestions:
7 simple tips on how to get your husband interested in you again.
5 The “Apology’ text:
If an argument arises because you fail to distinguish right from wrong, the text like “Sorry, you were right…” might be important for restoring the relationship. Understandably, sometimes it may be difficult for you to say sorry after a heated argument with him, although you have realized your mistakes. Disagreements and arguments are inevitable in a long-term relationship, and relationships can move forward with conflict; only when conflict is mismanaged, it can cause a rift in the relationship; and hence, the bond between you two has a lot to do with how you handle marital conflict.
More often than not, apologizing is an underrated part of de-escalating/resolving marital conflict, even though the conflict is not your fault.
Of course, apologizing in person is the best way to show your sincerity; but when it comes to a slight argument, talking by phone or texting is also an alternative. And don’t make a simple thing to be too complex, just keep the “Apology” text simple and brief. Here are some examples:
“I’m sorry… I want to make it up to you now.”
“I did wrong… I mistook your meaning last night.”
“Sorry, I was not acting like myself tonight.”
Sometimes, apologizing is a difficult thing to do, it takes courage and intellectual honesty to admit your wrongdoings/problems, especially if you are a person with strong pride; but it is always a driving force that enhances the emotional connection with your man.
6 The “recognition reminder” text:
This is one of the most important types of texts he wants to receive from you. Every man wants to feel appreciated in a love relationship, your husband is also not unexceptional – he wants to be recognized for his good qualities and thoughtful actions, and he wants you to affirm that he is doing a good job and that his efforts have been noticed. This kind of recognition keeps him devoted to you. In other words, if your husband feels that he does not get your recognition that he deserves, he may discontinue making efforts to grow the relationship.
Maybe, one or both of you are busy, and sometimes it is hard to find the proper time to say “I appreciate your…” in front of him. In this case, you might try to text him to express your appreciation/gratitude/respect. Your well-thought-out messages can also let him feel that you have recognized what he does for you. And here are some examples:
“It is you that help me solve the problem.”
“You make my life smoother.”
“I’m lucky to have you.”
“I appreciate the way you deal with this thing.”
“I know sometimes I am stubborn, but you are so patient with me, thank you.”
7 The “Memory Mover” text:
You and your husband must have ever had great times and made pleasant memories together. Remembering the good old days is a good way to reignite the passion in your long-term relationship – when your husband gets those good feelings that keep your intimacy bond strong and close, he will better feel the significance of staying in the relationship.
And in fact, a lot of happy memories will not disappear, and they will just live deeply in your heart; that is why we often inadvertently remember something and someone. And once you recall a good memory that you and your man shared together, you might try to make a long list of how that thing went and include every aspect of it; pretend you are a journalist who is reporting on a story, and fill in the what, where, when, who, how and why.
And some good intros of this type of text could be “Imagine we are back in…”, “Remember that time…”, and “The time we…”.
When sending the “Memory Mover” text, you are setting a scene. Therefore, you should try to spell it out and tell him a story that can show your fiery feelings of desire, passion, and love. And don’t forget to use those sensory verbs (e.g. lick, quiver, feel, and touch) and adjective or descriptive words that may help bring the text to life.
The final word:
Texting has become a part of modern relationships, although it is not a primary means of communication; and texting inevitably changes after you get married; and texting can have an impact on your relationship – whether it can help or harm your relationship depends on how you deal with it. For more tips on how to strengthen your relationship with your man through texting, you might go on to read the page below:
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What every husband needs from his wife – A husband’s basic needs.