Almost every woman dreams of her “prince charming” as well as her “dream home”, even though she knows well that such a dream can not come true exactly. Actually, men also have this type of dream; a man dreams of a perfect wife as well as a perfect life; surely, a man may not directly ask his wife to help him get as close to as possible to what he secretly wants; therefore, a wife may need to figure out what his man wants/desires on her own.
And let’s talk about 9 things a man secretly wants from his wife:
1 A man wants his wife to be attractive:
Ask yourself a simple question: why did your man want to marry you? Was it just because he felt the urgent need to get married? Or was it because you felt like no one else would marry you if you did not agree to get married at that time? … Of course, this kind of thinking is not healthy. I bet your man’s marriage decision was based on a series of positive factors, and one of the important reasons why your man decided to marry you should be your attraction to him; in love relationships, attraction is difficult to fake. Although we all know that attraction is easy to fade over time, this part can not be ignored as a basis of a long-term relationship.
Do you still remember the moment your man found you sexy and desirable, loved the sense, and fell deeply for you? Maybe, you feel difficult to face a fact – as a woman’s attraction to a man decreases, the relationship tends to deteriorate. Surely, attraction is not only about being physically attractive but even more about being emotionally attractive.
For more tips on how to be attractive to your man, you might go on to read the post below:
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2 Most men want their wives to be good mothers:
If neither of you and your man wants to have children in the future, you can skip this one. However, the majority of marital relationships involve children in some aspect; and the traditional family division (“Men outside, women inside”) still widely influence current families; when it comes to the natural ability to nurture and raise a child, a woman generally works much better than a man; and a man is very grateful to see his wife’s deep willingness to take good care of their children and even make selfless sacrifices for them.
No doubt, in a man’s mind, being a good mother is one of the essential qualities that make a woman a good spouse.
3 A man hopes that his wife can like his sense of humor：
Many times, a man likes to make jokes in front of his woman; most men view humor as a masculine trait. Therefore, men secretly want their wives to appreciate their humor, especially their efforts to alleviate a tense atmosphere through humor – when you and your man have serious disagreements and arguments, he may try to use a little humor to defuse conflict; in this way, he expresses his willingness to reconcile with you; meanwhile, your response that he desires to see is that you smile and laugh and stop taking things too seriously at the moment.
Moreover, when your man persistently attempts to make you laugh but you do not feel sympathetic at all, he can feel like you have no longer been interested in him; then he may pull away from you emotionally.
4 A man secretly wants his wife to help him get more organized:
Generally, men have a stronger sense of leadership and direction, and they are more capable of making clear, sensible, and big-picture decisions when it comes to those significant issues; but men do things more carelessly than women, and they want more organization when they are handling details. For example, your man wants to see a clean and tidy house when he comes back home; probably he is very busy with something, and he may not say it out, but I bet you have ever realized that a messy environment can easily put him in a bad mood; a man does not want tedious, messy things to build up to an extent where important things are easily overlooked or lost, and he wants his wife to help him avoid the bad situation.
In short, the majority of man has profound experience: he needs a partner that can help him get organized and get daily things in order.
5 A man wants his wife to help him be a good father:
Generally, boys suffer much more than girls during childhood. In particular, most men have to work very hard to support their families in such a competitive society; when they are excessively focused on their career, they easily neglect the care of their children, especially their boys; in the mind of most fathers, they need to concern more about their daughters, and they can allow their sons to act more independently; on the other hand, the increasingly high divorce rate is another factor contributing to single-parent families, especially single-mother families. Therefore, it is no wonder that a lot of men grew up in a family that was absent of paternal love. And as these boys grow into adults, they are more apt to suffer “father hunger” – they think that their fathers should have given them more care, love, and attention; so after they get married, they desire to be good fathers of their children. In this field, they secretly want their women to help them be good fathers.
6 A man wants an understanding wife:
In long-term relationships, men choose to remain silent from time to time; and scientific studies have found that men tend to be more introverted on average compared to women. When a woman encounters tough difficulties, she feels the need to confide in those closest to her. By comparison, a mature man is less tempted to spill out his troubles to other people; many times, a man just wants to be alone and think quietly; and in the mind of a man, it will be struggling to live a long life with a woman if he has to frequently explain to her motives/intentions behind his actions. Of course, a man may not intend to hide his feelings inside or hold his secrets, and he may give his woman hints to let her figure out things on her own. And when a woman feels like her man is reluctant to open up to her, if she still forces him to tell the story of his heart, he will be bored with her.
7 Similar interests or companionship:
While dating, a lot of women may actively take an interest in things that their men enjoy. But after they are married, the interest fades, and they may become unwilling to join in activities that their men used to enjoy doing with them. Basically, their men may get disappointed because they long assumed that they and their women had so much in common.
Surely, it is quite normal for a couple to have respective interests. For example, while a man is playing football, his woman may prefer to sit down quietly with a cup of tea and read a book. But as a life-long partner, a man secretly wants his woman to occasionally show concern about what he is interested in doing. For example, a woman does not like watching Basketball games, but his man always likes doing it; and probably, he secretly wants her to find some time to go to the gym to watch him play.
8 A man wants a wife who is not extremely talkative:
Usually, women have a stronger need for regular, open, and honest communication. However, as life gets serious and busy, this type of communication may sound more like complaining and nagging. For example, when a woman’s day becomes very stressful and her viewpoint becomes negative, in front of her man, she may ramble too much about things and people that she is disgusted with; but over time, he may be fed up with this kind of talk and show reluctance to listen to her, he feels likes she has become a resentful woman; on the other hand, she can sense the increased tension between them, then she gets disappointed/sad/upset/worried, even she may also get annoyed by something that he said or did… In a man’s mind, he desires to have a relatively quiet home; and he never wants his wife to constantly nag on daily trifles.
Usually, a man wants to talk and listen to his wife, but he also wants her to avoid nagging.
9 A man wants a wife who is always caring:
After years or even months of marriage, a wife may take her man for granted; but a man wants her to keep showing care and concern for him, regardless of the relationship stage; when she does so, this gives him a clear hint on how she feels about the relationship: she is nice to him, and she wants to have a happy life with him. No doubt, he loves this. Even when she occasionally shows concern for his family members, he may also feel gratified.
Therefore, no matter how long you and your man have been married, don’t think showing care and concern is just a stereotypical way of greeting that can be ignored. When he feels a bit ill, he never asks you to inquire about his health; and even though he doesn’t want you to sense that he is not well, he can feel cared for while you are asking about his physical state; and likewise, you can make your husband his favorite meals without the need to tell him in advance, this can make him feel cared for…
The final word:
When it comes to what a man wants from his wife, there must be many things that he wants to say but can’t say. And it is always gratifying for him to find that his wife strives to meet his expectations/dreams, and this can make him feel more motivated to maintain this long-term relationship.
For more tips on how to remain happily married with your husband, you might go on to watch the video below to follow the comprehensive guidance that is offered by Brad Browning, a marriage coach with 12+ years of experience:
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